Perfection is Passé - Let the Mess Stack

Life has been busy and regular, small hiatus from blogging, writing and online work are a routine now and I am not complaining as it’s worth all the time spent with my son and family. However, being a Super mommy and with strenuous hours of multi tasking, I feel distinctively eligible to hand out handy tips for stress-free parenting to all the new parents. Read On.

Be incompetent. Parenting is not a bystander sport. It’s infact more of a party game. Don’t aspire to do everything yourself. No one assists the super competent.

If you are a new parent, who is trying to make all ends meet for your child, you may be unaware on how to be incompetent. Let me help out. Leave toys on the carpet/floor, soiled hand imprints on the wall, and snack boxes in the car. Keep going with life, things will remain precisely where you left them last. They’ll be easier to locate. I understand a house once like an art gallery previously will now turn into a toy museum. Let it.

Be gorgeous, since there is no time for manicures, facials etc anymore. There are women with well manicured nails, colored hair, prim and proper strands of hair and then there are Moms. Looking after you takes a backseat on arrival of kids, because it’s a tradeoff between changing nappies and changing lipsticks/nail color. However, kids love good looking parents, don’t question why. Just be.

Indulge in speedy baths, and then overlook speeding up completely. Take chilled out showers. You deserve them.

Be scatterbrained. I know it makes you feel idiotic, but small attention spans have become trendy. Forget about upcoming sales, discount coupons, flea markets etc. Be Zen regarding it. Invest more funds in less time. You have been promoted.

Be erroneous. Make plenty of mistakes for they are helpful. They don’t have to be brand new or strange, just your own. Those are the only ones with great learnings in them.

Indulge in an affair. Yes, you read it right. An affair. Does that charming, caring man you once married now appear like an unfamiliar person – a complete stranger? When you feel up to it yet again, that unfamiliar person may be just the right man to fall in love with - have an affair with. Yet again. And this time there will be strolling obstacles between you. More escapades than before. Go on, relax and let your imagination run riot about the prospects.

Be the concurring types. Concur with the kids. Eventually we have to be in agreement with them anyhow. Agree with all the people who pass on free suggestion to you. You don’t have to do anything, just nod pleasantly. Apply now.

Be dominant. All parents are required to modify and confront their world. Their risks are so high and individual. All of us have undergone the feeling of utter subjection that convoys new parenthood. There is just one way out of that trench, and that is in the direction of the light.

Parenting is not synonymous with perfection. Becoming a Mommy and Daddy might come easy but being a parent is uphill struggle. We make regulations, draw limitations and direct by example. We pour antibiotics down blaring throats and clean their spit off our gloomy faces. We go to the corner and swab our teary eyes as we give away a piece of our hearts – our babies - to nurses and teachers. It’s perplexing and it takes an eternity to fathom.

Once in a while, we sit back and question the rationale of it all. My 9 month old son is in his dreamland, snoring away to glory as I type this post. Why do we have kids? My son’s constant chuckles have an answer, “To learn funny things”. It’s about an affectionate, fluffy feeling that sprints through me and I get the answer – We have kids so that they can love them. We have kids so that we can learn to love ourselves.

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