I wish I could relate to people I am related to!

There is a crumb of fact in the adage that “You can pick your friends/lovers, but you cannot pick your relatives.” Majority of us have those irritating relatives that we wish to keep away from at all costs. But given that we are correlated it is difficult to evade intermingling with them.

I myself have my share of few intolerable relatives; I actually don’t like those excessively inquisitive, gossip-famished relatives. In fact few relatives that I know are more aware about me than their own families. Not to forget few of whose life revolves around cyber stalking me on social networking websites. While a few others, surpass all perimeters of showing fake concern.
Psst! Time to stop raving now. The post is in fact on suggestions on how to be polite to your bothersome relatives. So why am I writing this? You possibly attempted a thousand and one ways on how to stay away from your “not-so-good” relatives and you’re at the closing stages of your wittiness, therefore the next best thing to do is to DEAL with it by attempting to make your interactions more tolerable.

I have abundant of such annoying relatives who I wish I had never met or known. In fact I don’t even know why am I related to them in the first place? But then I realized there is no bypass from them. Coping with some very unwanted people since the past few years, I can successfully churn some eccentric tips to cope with them. (User’s discretion necessary though).

• Smile is the best weapon. If you can’t smile authentically, then use a phony one. Welcome them when you come across them and grin. The first time I attempted it I felt like my face was covered with face pack but the more you endeavor it the better it’ll be.
• Admire them. Oh! This is very difficult, but try squeezing your mind and locate something to like about him/her. Be it her fake pout or his unvarying ability to always brag about himself, remark on them. Most infuriating people love attention so give it to them in snippets.
• If you wish to skip being asked too many private questions, try beginning a dialogue by inquiring about “what’s new” in their lives. This will give them an opportunity to ventilate their tales, communicate their views and this will make them feel good and consequently they will not be exceedingly inquisitive about your life in return.
• Envisage something hilarious about whatever they are jabbering about. You just might end up entertaining yourself? However be cautious about not expressing surplus pleasure, they might start believing you are comprehensively enjoying their companionship, so give it in precise doses.
• After you spend some time listening to their stories, come up with a creative escape route. An urgent call that has been on wait, an urgent dish that is placed on the stove in the kitchen which needs your attention, or perhaps the need to go out somewhere urgently. Be innovative.

Well these were some tried and tested tips for the more tolerable kind of relatives. For the ones which are absolutely unbearable and get on your nerves each time – Well, there’s just one thumb rule to apply for all - Treat them as they deserve to be treated. If they make an error or hurt you (deliberately or otherwise) let them know in obvious but polite ways of being indifferent towards them and don’t be scared to express your true emotions towards them. This cleanses our mind and keeps association straightforward. Pretending to like each other regardless of being hurt or mistreated does no good to any relationship anyways.

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